I remember getting marriage advice from people. I remember one guy going through a brutal divorce telling me one thing and my folks who are incredibly happily married after 35 years telling me something different.
Why would I take the advice of someone who is experiencing the opposite of the outcome that I want? I want to know what worked for my parents.
That’s discretion, not arrogance.
If you have only enough time to read one article, are you going to read someone who has never achieved what you’re trying to read about, or would you like to read the words of someone who is a veteran in the field.
It’s the same reason that in Basic Training the Drill Sergeants are combat veterans. Very seldom, do they use people to train us who haven’t already fought.
They might be able to tell us the same thing, but if they haven’t been there, done it and came back successfully, what do they know about combat?
There are two important lessons that I want you to take away from this.
- First, don’t pretend to be the authority that you’re not. There’s a certain disdain that people have for those who embrace the fake-it-until-you-make-it mindset. Share what you know and stop being a phony. Sure it takes a little longer, but it’s worth it.
- Second, find those who are absolutely the best in your field, learn from them and try to figure out what you can do to become as good as and even better than they are. Don’t do it to one-up them per se, but because that’s one of the best ways to learn and grow.
When I was in college, I had a job where my pay was based on the amount of work I could accomplish. The more I could get done, the more I got paid.
One day, the highest paid employee looked at me and said, “Let’s race.”
“You know you’ll crush me,” I responded, but I raced him anyways and he did crush me.
I made more money that day than I had ever made before.
Special Note: I’m not saying that you shouldn’t friend, support or learn from those around you who aren’t successful yet. I’m simply challenging you to balance your learning with some input from those who are the best in your field.