Are You Crying About Others’ Success?
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I recently read an article that really got me thinking about how often I hear people grumbling and murmuring about the success or the luck of others who are making it big.
This article is a public response to Keith Bloemendaal’s article entitled Are You Being A Cry Baby?
Just because it’s written to Keith, however, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t pay attention. In fact, I want you to not only read it but take the time to leave us your take on the matter. It doesn’t matter if you agree or disagree. We want to hear from you.
You’re not a sellout simply because you make money.
People act like your selling out if you make any attempts to profit from your ventures online. Would you tell a plumber that he’s a sellout if he tries to charge you for working on your sink? He would slap you in the face and remind you that as wonderful as it sounds to give away his services for free he still has to feed a wife and daughter at home.
Making money online is not unethical if it’s done in a way that is ethical. If you can make money from selling a valuable product that you create, from advertising with Adsense, buysellads or any other advertising platform, or by selling affiliate products and making commissions then you are not a sellout. You are a business person.
Why do we demand online what we would never demand in the real world?
Who are we to demand that people immediately respond to our comments on their blog or even respond to them at all? I’ve come home from training exercises as a member of the United States Army and found comments that essentially criticize me for not responding to them sooner. I had been away from the internet entirely because I was serving my country and these people had the gall to criticize me. It was ridiculous.
We need to stop whining about others successes and simply develop the skill of learning from them. In the Army, I’m often placed under leaders who may have character traits that I don’t like. I don’t, however, have the luxury of bashing them or publicly stating how much I dislike their style. Even if I had that right, I wouldn’t use it. It’s distasteful.
Rather I learn from them and determine that as I grow, develop as a soldier, and get promoted I will be a better leader. I will learn from the character strengths as well as from the flaws and I will determine to do better.
Learn from others. Don’t gossip about them.
You’ll not hear me bashing the ‘A’ listers. I hope someday to be among their ranks. I won’t be doing things the exact way that they do them. As I’ve made clear, I’ll learn from the things that I don’t like about them and determine to do them differently, but I won’t let the few things I dislike about them deter me from learning the many great things that I can absorb.
I don’t know about you, but I’m headed to the top. I hope that you’ll come with me. I’d love to see you up there and although I’ll do my best to answer your comments on my blog when I get there, I may not get to every single one of them.
Call me a sell out if you will, but I’m going to keep learning and growing.